your mom needs to go on an information diet. no news until you're ready to share. change the subject when she brings it up, and if she persists, then time to leave the room/house or end the phone call. repeat until she gets it.
Just got my grade back. I GOT AN 80 (sorry if this is moving it into rave territory). Class average was a lot lower so he's allowing test corrections as well.
What a ****ing waste of time and money. The corporate is going to lose so much money. As a doctor, I'd leave if this was the case.
Boundaries right meow. If they're going to be negative, they don't need to be part of the discussion. Tell them they need to consider their words and how they want to support you. If they continue to be negative, you will no longer discuss vet school stuff with them.
Totally agree with this. Your parents need to be put on an information diet. Even if they aren't intentionally trying to be discouraging, it doesn't change their impact. This process and this field is hard enough as it is. Good luck to you with this cycle. You can do it!
I'm pretty sure you can get temporary health insurance if you can afford it. When my boyfriend got a new job and his benefits didn't start until after 3 months in, he paid for temporary health insurance in the meantime. I think it was around $250 a month.
Definitely triple check with your insurance. Some people get kicked off the month they turn 26, but for my parents insurance, I got to keep it through the end of the year and had turned 26 in March. Otherwise, you should be able to get insurance through marketplace or something for the time between when you lose it and get school insurance if changing jobs isn’t that feasible or if you need it sooner than you’d be eligible with a new job. Sometimes they offer it after your first full month, but usually starts on the 1st so depending on when you start it could be longer than 30 days before getting it.
One thing that really worked for me with setting boundaries about updates is making a Google sheet that I update pretty frequently. I made it view only for people who have a link to it and I put when decisions are supposed to come out and rejections/acceptances/interviews when they come in. If anyone asks me I tell them to check the sheet! It also saved me from having to announce my first rejection
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I feel the exact same!!! I’m constantly sick over this and I do the same cycle of SDN, Reddit, and Facebook 😭 I know I’m not a super competitive candidate but I seriously don’t understand how it seems like everyone has tens of thousands of hours and a perfect GPA it’s insane. I literally just want one acceptance I do not care where. It’s driving me absolutely insane and every time I think about having to go through another cycle I just can’t do it…. But don’t worry haha at least you aren’t alone 🥲🥲🙃🙃Incoming whiny annoying complaining! I feel sick to my stomach waiting for decisions. I honestly really don't believe I'm going to make it in this cycle. My anxiety is at a paralyzing high and I spent all day today refreshing SDN, reddit, and FB because I can't think about anything else. I can't look at my essays or think about my hours or else I feel sick. All I do is compare myself to other applicants. My stomach turns every time my mind wanders on my schools which is about every hour. I struggle with self-esteem generally so I'm having such a hard time with this. Honestly don't know if I can mentally handle another cycle which makes me feel worse because this is my dream and I shouldn't be like...this. Some days I can't eat but most days I'm stress eating like Nikocado volumes. I think the only fix here is patience and maybe some therapy. Lol. Oh god. Just want this to end (in acceptance
Incoming whiny annoying complaining! I feel sick to my stomach waiting for decisions. I honestly really don't believe I'm going to make it in this cycle. My anxiety is at a paralyzing high and I spent all day today refreshing SDN, reddit, and FB because I can't think about anything else. I can't look at my essays or think about my hours or else I feel sick. All I do is compare myself to other applicants. My stomach turns every time my mind wanders on my schools which is about every hour. I struggle with self-esteem generally so I'm having such a hard time with this. Honestly don't know if I can mentally handle another cycle which makes me feel worse because this is my dream and I shouldn't be like...this. Some days I can't eat but most days I'm stress eating like Nikocado volumes. I think the only fix here is patience and maybe some therapy. Lol. Oh god. Just want this to end (in acceptance
I think the worst part is knowing the applicant pool has grown so much over the years so seeing those people with 4.0s and years of experience have such a bigger advantage makes my tummy hurt
It's honestly insane. I've been refreshing this site every 5 minutes for new information, new hope. I was fine until the first rejection came and then I realized, as an OOS applicant, I would be fighting against thousands of people for every school I applied to. This is my first cycle and I felt so confident until I saw the numbers. The idea of going again is scary and seems hard to handleIncoming whiny annoying complaining! I feel sick to my stomach waiting for decisions. I honestly really don't believe I'm going to make it in this cycle. My anxiety is at a paralyzing high and I spent all day today refreshing SDN, reddit, and FB because I can't think about anything else. I can't look at my essays or think about my hours or else I feel sick. All I do is compare myself to other applicants. My stomach turns every time my mind wanders on my schools which is about every hour. I struggle with self-esteem generally so I'm having such a hard time with this. Honestly don't know if I can mentally handle another cycle which makes me feel worse because this is my dream and I shouldn't be like...this. Some days I can't eat but most days I'm stress eating like Nikocado volumes. I think the only fix here is patience and maybe some therapy. Lol. Oh god. Just want this to end (in acceptance
You are not alone! I interviewed at my in state school last week and initially thought it went well, but each day that passes I keep thinking more into it and how I could've said more/said things in a better way/etc. This waiting game has been consuming me and I keep telling myself that I have done my best and whatever happens is meant to be, but it's still extremely difficult nonetheless.Incoming whiny annoying complaining! I feel sick to my stomach waiting for decisions. I honestly really don't believe I'm going to make it in this cycle. My anxiety is at a paralyzing high and I spent all day today refreshing SDN, reddit, and FB because I can't think about anything else. I can't look at my essays or think about my hours or else I feel sick. All I do is compare myself to other applicants. My stomach turns every time my mind wanders on my schools which is about every hour. I struggle with self-esteem generally so I'm having such a hard time with this. Honestly don't know if I can mentally handle another cycle which makes me feel worse because this is my dream and I shouldn't be like...this. Some days I can't eat but most days I'm stress eating like Nikocado volumes. I think the only fix here is patience and maybe some therapy. Lol. Oh god. Just want this to end (in acceptance
I 100000% feel the exact same way. I only applied to 4 schools because of costs, and I've already been denied by 2 (including my IS school). This is my first cycle, and I know that the first cycle doesn't always work out, but I want it so badly. I have plans for what to do if I don't get in, but that doesn't stop the hurt of it actually happening.
You're definitely not alone. I assumed I'd be rejected by most schools when I cast the wide net that I did, but the impact of actually receiving rejection letter after rejection letter is worse than I thought it would be. I obsess over hearing back from schools so hard that I think I'd limit apps to just a few programs next time around after feeling things out this cycle just to protect my mental state.
That’s exactly it! I knew that a lot of my schools were long shots and thought that I was prepared for the rejections but it’s so much different to actually get that rejection. I agree I wish I hadn’t applied to so many just to stop the constant rejection
I feel this deeply. I put off applying for many, many years because I didn’t feel I could handle this for the reasons you’ve stated. Please know that you are not alone, this is very hard, and rejections do not ultimately determine your worth as a human and your potential contributions in this field. I am hopeful that admissions will continue to shift to determine more metrics for worthiness beyond GPA and the ability to work thousands of unpaid hours for variations in experience.
Im in almost your exact same shoes as I also interviewed with UF instate and recently received my rejection. I wish I had applied to the island schools and others like Midwestern and LMU but unfortunately I didnt. Each person's life and perspective is different but in your shoes I would end up at Midwestern due to the fact that its in the US so it would be less of a culture shock and it could be easier to keep other costs (housing/moving/etc) down. I would be moving with my husband and 2 large dogs so there is that consideration as well.
Midwestern is more expensive than SGU by like 100k over the course of four years. For me that would make SGU a much better option. I haven’t met any vets from Midwestern but I know two from SGU and they loved the island. The student loans are manageable with their salary as well but they’re also working in ER in an urban area. If you have plan on going into a lower paying domain, it maybe be worth doing a second application cycle
I literally did this for a month after an interview I did and still got accepted! Don't beat yourself up about it!
Midwestern student here. My home state doesn't have a vet school, so all schools were going to be generally expensive for me. I considered doing another application cycle, but decided against it. Yes, I'm going to have more debt than if I went elsewhere, but at least I'll have a veterinarian salary 1 year earlier than if I did another cycle
There hasn’t been any actual evidence though has there? People just seem to like to tell stories.
No, the original doctor of the original dead dog briefly posted about this on a Facebook page she and I are both in. Originally thought to be heavy metal tox. But necropsy and food analysis didn't implicate the food.
). So when I keep getting rejected at schools I interviewed at, it hits a little harder since that is the part I’m most insecure about. Life didn't give you an acceptance- your hard work did. You did this- you earned it. I relate to not having a supportive family which caused me to internalize never feeling good enough. my first thought I have as someone squarely in midlife and looking back- is that this is something that is worth taking a pause and working through, especially prior to an experience as high stress and performance driven as veterinary school.Hello Everyone! Idk if this is the right place for this or not but I’m doing it anyway!
I just wanted an outlet to express my feelings over a certain manner …. I applied to a good amount of schools this cycle. And while I am eternally grateful that I managed to get accepted into ONE, I have been rejected at literally All others (so far). The one I got into was my In-state school and I have been rejected from every Out of State schools.
I know I probably shouldn’t even care much about the rejections since the in-state was my top choice but I can’t help but feel like … idk … that maybe I’m still not good enough??
The thing that gets me most is that I interviewed at most Out of State schools I applied to but I guess I wasn’t enough
I am more on the quiet / shy side so interviews were harder on me than most (I’m assuming). So when I keep getting rejected at schools I interviewed at, it hits a little harder since that is the part I’m most insecure about.
My in-state did have an interview as well and I managed to make it ! But having the others school reject me has made me feel like I still suck at interviewing, I’m actually not good enough to be a vet, and the only reason I got into the in-state school was because I was in-state.
I’m not sure why that matters to me so much … but here we are.
Again, I know I should incredibly happy that life gave me an acceptance into a vet school so all this shouldn’t matter much.
ALSO …. My parents aren’t the most supportive people in the world so every accomplishment I’ve had thus far in life has been belittled. Since family is important to me, I have grown to do the same and belittle basically everything and anything I accomplish.
I know I should be happy and proud of myself but I’m kinda more on the “ehh” side about it. (But maybe it just hasn’t fully sinked in??)
I would love any advice anyone can give me !
Thanks ! (And thanks for reading all this)
I strongly encourage you to take a deep breath and take a step back. I understand not getting in is frustrating and disappointing, but this mind set will not get you into vet school either.
I couldn’t agree more with @MixedAnimals77. GPA isn’t everything, a lot of the times it’s how you present yourself and how you would add to the career field. In fact if more vet schools get added, it’s just going to become more competitive. Medical schools have hundreds of schools, but there is no reprieve from how intense their requirements and application process is.
