Hi! I’m a Premed student who is in the 2021 cycle. I was accepted into an MD school, the one I attended undergrad at, and I’m so incredibly grateful for that. Although I don’t like the location since I’ve been there for about 80% of my life and my stats are quite a bit higher than the average, I really like the faculty there and their emphasis on community outreach.
My problem is, I don’t know if I can attend this school. I was never a huge fan of attending the school just for the fact that I desperately wanted to get to go somewhere new and start to grow in someplace where I wasn’t comfortable. When I first applied to this school last year though, I had felt okay with the idea of attending bevause of the other positives outweighing any drawbacks and that I’d still be able to become a good doctor even if the location wasn’t ideal.
Now comes the main issue (apologies in advance to getting too personal): there have been a lot of traumas that have happened to me during my time at this school including getting sexually assaulted by someone I thought was my friend and being in an abusive relationship. Although I was able to come out of the issue a much stronger and confident person, I realized throughout this year that something that had subconsciously helping me get through it all was believing that through all my hard work, I’d be able to move on to somewhere new where I didn’t have to walk around campus being reminded of these occurrences. It wasn’t until I recently came back onto campus (since we weren’t in campus for a long time and I had graduated) that I realized how much those memories lingered there and how claustrophobic it made me feel. I wish I had known in hindsight that I should’ve never applied to this school but my brain was in another mindset at that point and didn’t know what I knew now.
I feel terrible for even considering rejecting my acceptance now and I go back and forth on the daily. The thought of being at that school for 4-5 more years terrifies me and I’ve only been able to keep away the dread from continual work towards my other goals. This year, the experiences I’ve gotten have been very life changing and in terms of application, I’m going to have 2-3000 more hours of meaningful experience that has made me mature significantly as a person. That said, I know rejecting an acceptance to med school is a red flag to schools so I don’t know if it’s even worth it and I don’t want to be one of those people that spits in the face of the opportunities that they’re given.
Sorry for the very long post but I just need help and advice on where to move forward because I am truly lost right now. Thanks a bunch <3