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Becoming a surgeon is the only thing I've ever been this passionate about, especially for this long. And willing to put forth this much effort. But I get stuck thinking about how it will impact the life me and my fiancé want. What about when I have kids, what about the debt, what about the surgeon I wanted to be.
I wanted to do cardiothoracic which takes up a lot of time because of the specialty. And I honestly don't mind always being at the hospital. But what I'm truly stuck on is, either way I lose. If I pursue this, I know I'll be so invested in it and I will put it first and unfortunately, my family second, as a result I could lose my husband or have a not so good family bond.
But if I don't pursue this I'll have the family I want, more time for them, more leisure, but I'll be doing a job I don't have much passion for.
I'm just looking for any advice, harsh, kind, anything. Just something to help me with this choice.
I wanted to do cardiothoracic which takes up a lot of time because of the specialty. And I honestly don't mind always being at the hospital. But what I'm truly stuck on is, either way I lose. If I pursue this, I know I'll be so invested in it and I will put it first and unfortunately, my family second, as a result I could lose my husband or have a not so good family bond.
But if I don't pursue this I'll have the family I want, more time for them, more leisure, but I'll be doing a job I don't have much passion for.
I'm just looking for any advice, harsh, kind, anything. Just something to help me with this choice.